Well, we steamed past about 4 dozen milestones this past weekend, so, things are moving in the right direction in many ways. We also came to a new agreement: I will still expect JC to meet just the minimal responsibilities we've agreeed to, but JC can take on any other responsibilities autonomously as she likes. I don't need to ask her to do things, and she doesn't need to wait for me to ask.
JC has also asserted that she's sticking to the rules as written. A card from Mommy Dearest appeared on the counter, and it was unopened. She said she was waiting until she could read it with me, or with her therapist. We read it. It was very dull.
Of course, JC had a bit of an anxiety attack following it, but we're not sure it was connected. It doesn't seem connected. There literally was nothing of interest in the card, so it's hard to imagine how that could have caused an anxiety attack. We'll figure it out later. JC used her skills, recovered, and moved on. I just need to, as well.
Our vacation in July is back to being just us and the kids. No outside parties. I'm still not sure how that's playing with The Others, but I've come to another conclusion there: I don't care.
JC is going to ask her parents a couple of hard questions. If she gets satisfactory answers, I'll ask mine. If she doens't, I don't plan on bothering to ask. I don't plan on bothering to do anything much more than that, either way. In fact, I mostly plan to not see The Others again at all. I have legs, I can walk away.
I haven't done all I can in relation to The Others. I know that. Because I know what "all I can" entails, thanks to JC's eating disorder. But I've done all I care to do. My personal ROI makes further effort pointless.
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