Preparations

I have to figure out what to say to Mommy Dearest on Thursday.

I want you gone pretty much sums it up.

Over the last 13 years, I've watched how she's treated JC, and it disgusts me.  She treats her daughter as an afterthought, as a chore.  And her grandchildren, even more so.  Every time we asked for her to come babysit, it was a litany of everything she'd have to move around to accomplish it.  When she lived here, she rarely would visit us, we always had to bring the kids to her. And when she moved away, we only saw her on her schedule.  She would never come to visit JC or the kids, it was always a part of some other trip for someone else, and we'd get whatever leftover time she had. 

Let me make this clear: she did not come visit when her grandson was born. And when she finally did make the trip, it was three days before she could be bothered to extricate herself from having fun with her "friends" before she came to see him.  Three days.

We are not a priority for her.  And JC clearly never has been.  How often do you tell your daughter that your husband wanted sons?  In my world, never.  In her's, whenever she needed to excuse her husband's actions, like spending more time with his Little Brothers than with his own children.

I know I tried to keep the therapist from being the bad guy.  Not much chance there.  Mommy Dearest told my mother that, essentially, therapists dig things up from the past. Way to take responsibility.

Oh, and apparently, Daddy's thoughts are, well, it was his turn in high school, so it's Mommy Dearest's turn now, to be the bad guy.  Fuck them both.

I'm so done with her family.

My mother said to me, it's a mother-daughter relationship, and it's wise to stay out of it.  Most of the time, I would agree with that, whole-heartedly.  Well, right now, my choices are, get in the middle, or watch my wife die.  So, I'm in the middle.  And it's going to take a miracle to move me out of the middle. And me in the middle means her family now gets to deal with a person who does not care about their feelings.  Enjoy that.

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[Blood Dragon]

"Once more into the breach..."

They left you no choice. You tried to be civil. They aren't even going to allow you that. Stand fast, and if you need help preventing physical access you know where we reserves are.

"I have not yet begun to fight."

[ytrozs]

I stand by my statement that even if, by some miracle, they reconcile with JC, they still have to reconcile with me. And that's going to be far harder to do, because I feel no loyalty to them at all.